Swordfighting
Atlanta is the first place I have ever seen a dude actually holla at another dude in the mall. I'm talking about Dude #1 was standing on the wall at Lennox looking super gay with the extra breezy shirt on, and the leather band bracelet with the huge Dior shades on. Dude #2 is walking his way and catches Dude #1 checking him out. Dude #2 is extra crisp on some model s%&# with the razor thin beard. They looked at each other, exchange a few words, and Dude #1 whips out his celly. I don't hear the conversation but as Dude #2's body language leans closer to Dude #1, I know what is going down. I was witnessing my first gay hook-up.
I can't say I was as disgusted as I thought I would be. I don't know why I ever thought it would be so disgusting in the first place. I guess I've been sucked into the same thinking as the 74% of people in Georgia that voted to ban gay marriage. I heard the rhetoric about how nasty and evil it is for a man to be with a man. Pornography and southern rappers try to sell the lesbian angle. Woman on woman was supposed to be super sexy but I can't tell. I never really got down with it. Seeing a pretty woman kiss up with another chick unleashes my inner old man. ("I got sumthin for ya to kiss rite chea gurl"). Needless to say looking at another dudes ass is not my thing.
Seeing this little hook up changed my mind about the whole gay thing. Looking at those dudes, as captivated as I was, I couldn't help but notice how natural it was. No thunder and lightning. No tornado. No earthquake. It was a guy that likes guys, getting with another guy that likes guys. It makes perfect sense to me.
Where everything gets all mixed up is when people don't like it and decide to stop other people from living their lives. Dude #1 is not trying to fondle little boys. Dude #2 didn't grope every cat walking by. They were going about their day shopping and looking fabulous, when they looked up and heard violins. The world moved in slow motion as their eyes met from across the mall. Dude #2's shuttered with attraction, his eyes asking longingly "Are you..." Dude #1 nodded in a cool subtle reply. "Yessss"
Ok maybe it didn't go down that poetically. Maybe it was a little conversation, then back to the crib for a little swordfighting. I prefer not to think about that part.
The people out to ban gay marriage seem to be using the same argument they used to make black people slaves. God said it. They really don't have any good reason to logically suggest it is inherently wrong or detrimental in any way. Every point they have make comes down to "I don't think.." or "I feel..". It equals us legislating personal beliefs at the detriment of an entire category of people. They don't want homosexuals to be married because it undermines the institution of marriage. Last time I checked over half of heterosexual marriages end in divorce within 3 years, but no activist have come up to make it harder for people to get married all willy nilly.
They don't want homosexuals to adopt children because they ... are gay? I never have really got a real answer on why gay people can't raise kids. The adoption system in America is already over run with abandoned, abused, and neglected kids and almost 60% of them will live their whole lives in the foster care system. There is documented case after case of the sexual, mental and physical abuses they suffer in heterosexual foster care placements. Why won't you let a perfectly good couple with the will and the resources to love and care for a child, rescue that child from the wicked system that is steering them toward a life of substance abuse and criminal activity? Because you don't like gay people? That benefits you not the child. Who is this really supposed to be about?
My friend went to a graduation where the relatives got to hood the graduating class. Mothers hooded daughters. Aunts hooded nephews. At one point the announcer calls out a guys name and says he is being hooded by his "partner". She said people gasped and laughed, pointed, oooh'd and ahh'd. They need to stop with all that. Let that man spend his life with that other man, adopt(rescue) pretty black babies, go forth and prosper. He ain't bothering nobody. Long as they love each other who gives a damn. Not me.
posted by Rebel1 @ Wednesday, May 17, 2006
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7 Comments:
i have a problem with homosexuality, but only as it relates to me as a female. i admit it. i'm selfish. i want all the fine men and i'm seeing more and more of them going over to play for the other team.
now that's the part of me buying into the fear that there won't be enough black men around for us sistas. the reality is that's not the case and i'll continue to do battle with myself until i realize that. however, i do have to wonder if many of the men are choosing homosexuality because of an absence of a father figure in their lives from a young age and/or the emasculation they've experienced in a society where one's 'manhood' is measured based on what he is bringing to the table financially and materially. given the fact that there are so many brothas battling the obstacles created as a result of socioeconomic inequality and faltering, it would make sense that some of them would feel less of a 'man' and therefore would choose homosexuality over the pressures and expectations that come with a heterosexual lifestyle (being the man of the house, main breadwinner, etc).
all that said, everything you've said here is on point. i think folk who love each other, regardless of the sex, should have equal protection under the law. their union should be recognized and they should receive the same benefits and freedoms as heterosexual couples do, including the freedom to adopt and raise children.
kids need love. they could give a crap about the sexuality of who's giving it.
I don't dig the homosexual lifestyle and have serious reservations about legitimizing it for a number of secular reasons.
With that said, the only reason I even voted last year was to vote no to the gay marriage amendment. Codifying discrimination just isn't cool with me.
I don't have a problem with homosexuality, but I don't endorse or support it either. My faith tells me that it's a sin. Whether I personally like that or not, that's what I've chosen to believe and I don't cherry pick what to believe and what not to. With that being said, morals cannot be legislated. Just because my faith teaches me that marriage is between a man and woman, doesn't mean I have the right to put that belief on anyone else. I also believe that everyone is entitled to equal protection under the law. Gay couples should have the same protections as married heterosexual couples (inheritance, insurance, etc.) As far as adopting children, I think it's a no brainer. A couple's sexuality has nothing to do with their quality of parenting. As long as the child is loved and wanted, that's all that matters.
NO problems here..whatever floats your boat..but i think it shouldnt be forced or make other ppl uncomfortable.
Very well put Solomon.
I have a book I think you would like that explores a similar topic. It's about a young man's struggle to gain acceptance in a military envionment. I could send it to you if you want.
"Seeing this little hook up changed my mind about the whole gay thing. Looking at those dudes, as captivated as I was, I couldn't help but notice how natural it was. No thunder and lightning. No tornado. No earthquake. It was a guy that likes guys, getting with another guy that likes guys. It makes perfect sense to me."
thank you for this paragraph. im not gay or a lesbian, but i can appreciate anyone who appreciates love--in its simplest form.
~fallen angel
"They were going about their day shopping and looking fabulous, when they looked up and heard violins."
This is a great, funny line. Loved it.
On the homosexuality issue, I don't have a problem it. Whatever works for people.
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